Guilt….

Sometimes I think I’m too much of a people pleaser or too empathetic to others feelings. When I want to just close the world away and ditch all of my responsibilities…

I feel guilty because in my head I’m letting others down.

When others are feeling low or need help I’m always the first to be there offering my help to the best I can but when I’m down I can’t stop my overthinking brain.

When in reality I deserve to take time if I need to.

I feel guilty when I moan about being tired, stressed, having no money when my mom is going through cancer or how others have drama going on to. I don’t want to add to other peoples stress.

Guilt is such a hard feeling to work through, trying to remember that sometimes I need to put myself first and take time for my own mental well-being. In times where I’m anxious or in unfamiliar situations I live in a state on panic, adrenaline, sadness and anger.

Focussing on what I know about how I’m feeling I’m slowly remembering it’s ok to not be ok.

Realising and remembering that if I need a day off that’s ok, if I want to cry it’s ok, if I need to scream….scream but don’t wallow in the self pity think, do then try to push through. I need to be strong so I can be strong for my family!

“An unpeaceful mind cannot operate normally.” –Watchman Nee

Early morning walks with the dog🐕

Urghhh it’s that dreaded time when teachers go back after half term. I’m not ready at all, I want another 10 weeks off.

Only sometimes do I wish I went down another route that teaching, half terms spoil you.

In the mornings me and the dog always have our early morning walk before I go off to work for the day.

He’s so funny he will wake me up for sure if I’m not really for his walk!!!🤣

Rainy windy walks 🎶

Not all of the time do I feel up to writing in a morning but recently finding out my mom is unwell I’m using this as a tool to manage my emotions. I’m so used to ringing her in the morning upset, crying and her listening to me…. But I don’t want to stress her out more than she needs to.

The purpose of this post is to say do things that put you out your comfort zone. I can’t bear the thought of waking up in the morning earlier than I need to but it not only….. makes me feel better it allows my dog to burn off energy before I’m at work.

We enjoy our own time together and separately on these walks. As it’s early morning I always feel my stresses from the day before come to light very quickly, just sifting through the negative to find your inner peace is hard to do when your tired.

Being out on walk opens up your mind, let’s your breathe more clearly, being around mature and it’s calmness only allows my mind to open up and think positively or trying to be anyway.

Physical exercise even though I’m walking at a snails pace so my dog can sniff and do as he pleases, it can come in many forms. Like I said most my days I teach dance so I’m very active but to get a little bit of movement in a morning can go either way for me.

Right now I’m sitting on the fence I don’t know how to feel. I want to be strong but I’ve just had enough of trying to fight through all the s**t life brings you.

Please comment if you feel the same or have any advice in staying strong? I try but sometimes it’s hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel!!!!

Supporting those with long term illness ♋️🎀👚

By clicking the link it will take you to view this beautiful, elegant, pink/white, fitted statement women’s T-shirt. Creating this T-shirt with hope to donate to research projects and create those memories as a family.

Together we make a family

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https://vibranzclothing.co.uk/

Creativity outlet to help positive mental health 💅🏻

Creativity can have a positive impact on mental health by providing an outlet for self-expression, reducing stress, and promoting a sense of accomplishment. Engaging in creative activities, such as art, music, or writing, allows individuals to channel their emotions and thoughts in a constructive way, fostering emotional well-being. Additionally, the process of creating can be relaxing and meditative, helping to alleviate stress and anxiety. Completing creative projects can boost self-esteem and provide a sense of purpose, contributing to overall mental health and happiness.

For me I teach dance everyday so I have a very creative job which allows me to be very expressive through music and movement.

As I do this all the time thought I do feel like I sometimes find myself being creative in other ways!!!! I enjoy exploring new ways to be self expressive.

Finding out my mom is poorly I need more than just dance and music as my focus. Recently I have gotten into creating clothing because

1. I feel like there isn’t much variety out there in terms of what style I like as I don’t tend to follow trends.

2. I enjoy being self expressive with designing clothes in which I think others will look amazing in to.

I have specially created a T-shirt dedicated to all those families struggling just like my family is. Below is the link to check out my clothing🫶

https://vibranzclothing.co.uk/

In these unfamiliar times we all need to stick together.

What do you do to be self expressive? Comment below I would love some more advice on what others do to see if I can learn more ways to open up!!💞

Night time thoughts 💭

Winding down before I go upstairs to bed I feel like this is my moment here to reflect. This week has just been a one that I’m glad to have got through the other side but also leaves me with lingering anxiety of the week that’s to come.

It will be so unbelievably busy and full on, a change to what this week has been like.

Emotionally drained and stressed is the feelings I have been sitting in this week. Seeing certain friends has helped create those brief moments of happiness.

Allowing you to forget your stress if only for a few hours.

Reflecting on this week and the positives of seeing friends, spending more time with family and having fun.

Knowing my week will be a crazy whirlwind I want to hold onto the moments of time where I can fill it with those precious memories or just relax and rest. Listening to what my body needs to keep me sane.

Struggling with family news

My worst fear has come to light, my mom is poorly.

For me this is the worst thing to happen, the only thing I have worried about ever since I could remember. She is my best friend and to ever think she wouldn’t be here just makes me want to curl up and cry.

For years it’s just been me and my mom, me and her together. As I’ve grown older and adult life comes in the way I would say we were still close but just didn’t see each other every day. Finding out she isn’t well and might have cancer more than likely has just shook me to the ground.

I was fortunate for her to let me live in our house with my boyfriend and she went to live with her boyfriend. Ever since finding out she is unwell it’s made me question and regret her moving out, not seeing her as much and just feeling guilty.

I think when you find out bad news like this though and especially with the big word cancer thrown into the mix, the unfamiliar thoughts create that anxiety and stress and with this type of stress you need to let it out but not let it consume you.

We’ve only known a week and I feel like that week has been 2 years with how my emotions have been up and down. For me it’s important to find healthy ways to let my negative feelings out. Taking up reading again has massively helped and walking the dog with headphones listening to my favourite music has made my mental well-being a lot easier to manage.

The hard part will be returning to work after half term off and dealing with the stresses of my daily job and also balancing my home life.

For now the struggle is real for me and my family but sticking together will help my mom try and fight this off. Starting this blog I want to help myself in my bad days and also note down the good days.

Finishing off with a positive for a Sunday evening.

Not everyday will be a bad day, let the bad days come and go. When your having a good day make the most out of each and every second.

Beautiful start of sunset 🌅

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